Disappointment. It’s universal. It’s inevitable. It can stop you in your tracks.
Here are 11 strategies I’ve found useful in managing the big ‘D’.
- Do not confuse disappointment with failure. You are not a failure.
- Call a friend.
- Journal your thoughts. Caution: This may not be the best time for a heartfelt, tell-all blog post.
- Go for a walk and talk it out. Yes, by yourself.
- Ask a friend out for dinner. Talk their ear off. Title the dinner topic, “All About Me”.
- Sit in a comfy chair and brood. Set a time limit. (yes, several days IS too long). Stop brooding when the time is up.
- If the disappointment is affecting you from accomplishing regular life tasks, seek professional help.
- Engage in self-talk. Inside voices are preferable, but not required.
- Try not to personalize the disappointment. (see #1) You are NOT a failure!
- Re-visit your goals. If the goal hasn’t changed, ask yourself if something in your method needs tweaking. Be gentle, this is not the time to berate yourself.
- Above all, stay the course, perhaps the disappointment is more about circumstance than about you.
Bonus. If all the aforementioned strategies fall short, pour a drink, perhaps a warm beverage, alcohol is not required, but is admissible. With beverage in hand, reflect on these immortal words of Scarlett O’Hara (and who wouldn’t model their life after her).
“I can’t think about that right now. If I do, I’ll go crazy. I’ll think about that tomorrow.”
Ain’t it grand that Better is Possible,